Reading Round-up

As we shared earlier this summer, we’ve been doing some writing for a new site called Purple Clover. We haven’t been linking to that writing from here, mostly because that site has a different focus from ours.

However, I’ve written a few pieces that I thought all of you might find relevant/interesting, and we’re rounding them up in this post for you. I’ll give you the first few paragraphs, then a link to take you to the site if you want to read the rest of it.

First up: A little piece about the challenges of staying connected as a couple, which in many ways was easier when we didn’t live together.

This (sorta) Old Life: dirty dishes

Keeping Romance Alive

This is supposed to be an inspirational and entertaining little piece about keeping romance alive in a midlife, mixed-family relationship. At least, that’s how I pitched it. But my pitch assumes two not-necessarily-true things:

1. It’s possible to keep romance alive in such a relationship.

2. I know how to do it.

Truth is, I’m not sure about either assumption. While it is true that I deeply love my partner, Cane, and we regularly feel a kind of connection that thrills me, it is also true that many afternoons, when I find yet another bowl in the sink filled with tepid water that has festered all day long with the remains of the morning’s batter for his waffles, I want to throw the bowl at him. For real….(read the rest)


Back in the spring, I wrote a post here about the day I learned that my first serious boyfriend had gone on hospice care. Cane and I visited him not long after that, the first time I’d seen him since 1985. I thought you might like to know how that went:

This (sorta) Old LIfe: Rita

The Best Version of Myself

It was the kind of Facebook message no one wants to get:

They say Facebook is most used by men looking for old girlfriends …

This was, of course, from an old boyfriend, one I hoped never to hear from again.

As this kind of message goes, it wasn’t so bad. He was happily married, with two children, and obviously wasn’t looking to rekindle anything we’d extinguished more than 25 years ago.

Still, I was wary….(read the rest)


Finally, here’s one about our embrace of suburbia–location of the home we share so much about with all of you. Loving the home you’re in is a big part of the philosophy we’ve developed through writing our blog. For us, that started with loving the community we’re in.

This (sorta) Old Life: Neighborhood in fall

Lost and Found in Suburbia

According to Urban Dictionary, the suburbs are “an evil massive sprawl” and “the biggest waste of land on earth,” where “the adjoining wooded areas have often been removed after bored teenagers get caught going there to drink beer and smoke pot.”

My greatest wish as a teen was to flee Burien, the suburb south of Seattle my parents moved us to when I was 4. Sitting in my friends’ basements listening to The Who, I was pretty sure we were growing up in Pete Townshend’s teenage wasteland.

Where did I want to live? I didn’t know — in a city, on the ocean, in a small farming town. Anywhere but in a bland, boring, same-as-every-other-one suburb…. (read the rest)


That’s it for today! We hope you all have a great weekend, and we’ll be back next week with an update on our family room progress. We might even have a kitchen table/bench tutorial. Maybe not, though–doing the project was easier than writing the tutorial!

A little feedback?

I’m not planning on sharing any more Purple Clover pieces here, as we’ve decided that we’re not going to renew our contract there. (I’ll be sharing more about that next week, most likely.) However, I’ve been wondering if you’d be interested in posts that share content from other sites.

I’ve been finding some great stuff lately on the topics we write about here–things that I think many of you would enjoy. I often post them to our Facebook page, but I’ve been wondering about sharing them here.  (If you haven’t Liked us and want to so that you can see those articles and other things that don’t make it to the blog, please click here.)

This week I’ve started collecting them on a Pinterest board (which you can see/follow by clicking here).

This (sorta) Old Life: Pinterest board

So, my questions are:

1. Would you appreciate a regular reading round-up sort of post, with excerpts and links to other content?

2. If yes, any particular topics you’re interested in?

Thanks all! And, of course, we’d love to hear any other thoughts you’ve got about domestic life, love, and suburbia. :-)