Cooking without a net Or, a funny thing happened on the way to quinoa
I’ve decided that cooking from a recipe is like writing a 5-paragraph essay.
You all remember that one from English class, right? It goes kinda like this:
- Paragraph one: Tell ‘em what your gonna tell ‘em, with your 3 (not 2 or 4 or certainly 5) main points.
- Paragraph two: Tell ‘em your first point.
- Paragraph three: Tell ‘em your second point.
- Paragraph four: Tell’em your third point.
- Paragraph five: Tell ‘em what you just told ‘em.
I hate the 5-paragraph essay. (Can you tell?)
More precisely, I hated teaching kids how to write the 5-paragraph essay. Not just because the essays they wrote were so god-awful boring and artificial that the experience made all of us miserable (though that right there is reason enough), but because teaching kids how to write a 5-paragraph essay didn’t teach them how to write.
It taught them how to follow a formula that would get them through my assignments, but it didn’t teach them fundamental principles of good writing that they could apply to any writing task (much as I tried to use it for that).
Most didn’t care about the principles. They cared about getting the assignment done.
Getting it done was relatively easy, just like following a recipe is easy. Almost anyone can do that, as long as it isn’t too complicated.
I’ve been realizing that when it comes to cooking, I’ve been like so many of my students: I’ve never cared about underlying principles. I didn’t want to learn how to cook. I just wanted to get dinner done.
Now that I’m having to cook gluten-free, all of that is changing. I can’t just cook convenience foods, so I need to know how to make real food. I need to know how to improvise, so I can substitute healthy ingredients for the ones that make me sick.

Even gluten-free recipes aren't a sure thing. I couldn't find the sweet rice flour this one calls for, and I tried to substitute a different kind. Didn't work.
All of which is why I’m so excited to write today’s Friday Food post.
We cooked something without a recipe!
And it was good!
Advance disclosure: This story starts out kinda stupid. But it ends so smart, we’re OK with showing you our stupid.
Two weeks ago reader Stephenie left a comment suggesting a way to cook quinoa with garlic and red onion. Last Saturday night we decided to get adventurous and try it, even though there was no recipe for us to follow.
It seemed simple enough–just saute a little garlic and red onion and add the quinoa and…eat something great.
Adaptation #1: Carmelized onions
We didn’t have any red onion, but I love Cane’s carmelized yellow onions, so I suggested that we swap out red onions for yellow. Cane sliced up three onions (into rings) and began cooking them in olive oil. When I asked him how one carmelizes onions, he said just cook them in oil until they’re soft.
I’m guessing it’s not quite that simple, but I can’t really tell you how he did it because because I was messing with the grill and snapping the ends of green beans and not anticipating that this dish would be the centerpiece of a post.
I did find this guide to carmelizing onions, however, and the next time I want some and Cane’s not around, I’m going to do what the Reluctant Gourmet recommends.
Adaptation #2: Where the stupid comes in
In between running to the grill and snapping green beans, I sauteed a couple tablespoons of minced garlic. Then, it was time to put the quinoa in.
I’m not sure of exactly how this went down, but in my memory Cane handed me a bag that looks like this when I asked him to get the quinoa out of the cupboard:
“Is that quinoa?” I asked.
“Uh-huh.”
“Are you sure?”
“Yeah.”
“Ummm, OK. But it doesn’t look like the quinoa I made a while ago.”
“It’s quinoa.”
You might remember what that quinoa looked like because I put a picture of it in a post:

I know this was quinoa, because it came in a box with "quinoa" on the front of it, unlike the stuff in the Winco bulk foods bag.
Cane’s “quinoa” didn’t look like the quinoa in my memory, but I shrugged and put two cups in with the minced garlic I’d sauteed. (We buy minced garlic in a jar, and I’m never exact with the measurements. Just use a couple tablespoons of it.)
Stephenie said to toast the quinoa, stirring constantly, so that’s what I did (on medium heat).
The next step is to add chicken stock, and cook until the quinoa is fluffy (still according to Stephenie). We poured in enough chicken stock to cover the grain, and kept the heat on medium.
And that’s when our “quinoa” puffed up and was obviously not quinoa at all.
“Oh, I think this is actually Arborio rice,” said Cane.
“Huh?”
“You know, the kind of rice you use with risotto. I guess we’re making risotto!”
(If you followed our bathroom renovation project at all, this really isn’t surprising, I’m sure.)
Here’s where the stupid transforms into smart
(And when I started taking pictures.)
I’ve never eaten risotto.
(I know. We can get into my dysfunctional food history some other time.)
At this point, I pretty much turned this dish all over to Cane and focused on the steaks and beans.
Whenever the liquid started to boil out, Cane added more so that the rice would stay covered. He did this until the rice was soft, which took about 20 minutes.
At some point in the 20 minutes, I realized we had some left-over cooked bacon in the fridge.
“Hey, what do you think about putting bacon in it?” I asked. (I like to get stuff out of the fridge.)
This was sort of like asking Cane,
“Hey, what do you think about breathing?” Because the man has never met a dish he doesn’t think would be improved with the addition of bacon.
So, I cut the bacon into little strips, and we added it to the rice when we thought it was done.
At this point, we also added the carmelized onions. Stirred everything up and transferred it to a bowl.
Finishing touches
“It needs some green,” Cane said.
“We’ve got some cilantro,” I said.
“Hmmm…OK, I guess.”
I chopped up some cilantro–I have no idea how much, but the cutting board looked like this:
Cane now says this would be better with Italian parsley, but it was really good the way it was, so I say, use cilantro. (I tend to feel about cilantro the way Cane feels about bacon.)
The last step? Grate some parmesan over the whole thing, so that it looks like this:
Eat…and enjoy
As mentioned above, we served this with steaks (grilled medium) and beans (steamed). A simple meal, the highlight of which was the risotto.
What made this meal possible
Even though Cane got a little goofed up on the whole quinoa/rice thing, it worked out (wonderfully, I might add–this was really good stuff) because he knows some things about how to cook:
- He knows how to cook rice.
- He knows how to carmelize onions (and what to do with them).
- He knows when a dish is better with “something green” in it.
I want to know those kinds of things, too.
As it stands right now, I’m really in the 5-paragraph essay stage of cooking. I’m dependent upon the recipe.
If I’ve got all the ingredients and the recipe’s fairly simple, I’m good. I have even fooled some people into thinking I’m a good cook, by showing up with a tasty dish. But, if I’m missing some ingredients or the directions aren’t super-clear, I’m usually out to lunch. (Or wanting to go out to lunch.)
I want to get to a place where I can stand in front of my pantry or fridge, and pull out some food and make it into something that I want to eat–without a recipe.
I asked Cane if he thinks that recipes can teach me what I need to know about how to cook.
His response? ”Maybe. But I think it takes longer that way and you might not learn as well.”
Kinda like the 5-paragraph essay as a pathway to good writing.
So, I’m hoping to learn some fundamentals in the coming months. I’m starting with rice because it’s become a staple for me, replacing the bread and pastas I used to eat. I’m still using recipes–don’t want to starve in the meantime–but I’m expanding my reading beyond cookbooks so that I can learn about the fundamentals of cooking.
And you?
How did you learn to cook? How do you grow as a cook? And, if you’ve got any great tips on risotto or rice, please share!
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Apr 20, 2012 @ 19:20:57
Hi Rita,
This post had me laughing. Thomas cooks like that (when he cooks.) I learned from my mother. I was in 4H and when I was in middle school girl’s took home economics. My daughter is attending the Culinary Institute of America in NY. I am constantly trying new recipes. Variety is the spice of life.
Deborah
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Apr 21, 2012 @ 06:26:22
I never really learned how to cook from my mom. Like me, she’s never much liked cooking. And I never took home ec–seemed we were in perpetual budget crisis during jr. high and high school, and electives were limited. I took more academic ones (foreign language and such). But, I love learning new things, and I’m really having fun turning my attention to food. A chef in the family would be fabulous, though!
Apr 21, 2012 @ 06:14:55
Rita, that is so funny. I started reading your post and thought “OH, she’s trying the quinoa I suggested, that’s great.” Then I kept reading and started laughing. LOVE the story of the not-quite-quinoa…and I am so happy it turned out anyway!! IF you still want to try the quinoa recipe, here it is…but your recipe sounds good, too. : ) Thanks for sharing!
http://chefmichaelsmith.com/Recipe/toasted-quinoa-pilaf/
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Apr 21, 2012 @ 06:28:45
Thanks for the recipe! (If I knew more about cooking, I’m sure I wouldn’t need it, but…I don’t!) It sounds really easy. Like something even we could do without messing it up. Long as we actually take quinoa out of the cupboard.
Apr 21, 2012 @ 10:40:45
I’ve never enjoyed cooking either. For me, it’s all about just getting the food on the table so everyone is happy! But the times I have actually enjoyed cooking are the times when I had to be creative with the ingredients I had on hand. I never follow a recipe correctly. I always skip some step or forget an ingredient….it’s always an ADHD disaster. I think the best way to an enjoyable, successful cooking experience for me is to approach it the same way I do a painting, or art project…NO EXPECTATIONS or preconceived ideas about what it “should” be when I’m done (other than tasty)! It really comes down to having fun with the process of creating something, and letting go of the fear of failure! Good luck with your Gluten Free eating. My brother has an autoimmune disorder, and he has found that eating Gluten Free has helped him tremendously. One more thing…I absolutely LOVE your blog. You are an amazingly talented couple!
Apr 21, 2012 @ 21:49:59
Thanks for the nice words, Kristen. Glad you like the blog.
I’m pretty good with open expectations when cooking, but haven’t been so good with tasty end results! Getting there, slowly. I am finding that I’m enjoying the process of cooking way more than I ever did in the past. I think because I’ve changed my mindset about it. (Isn’t everything about how we approach it?) I’m feeling like the need to go gluten-free has actually been this great big gift. I’ve been having fun in the kitchen for the first time in my life. Not every day–sometimes it’s a big pain and I wish it didn’t take so long to make dinner–but more often than not.
Apr 24, 2012 @ 00:08:12
It doesn’t look bad at all. Well, unfortunately, I am still starting to learn how to cook and it’s kinda frustrating at the start but I know everything will be better. I try to use the internet and few good cookbooks together with the help of my mom.
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Apr 24, 2012 @ 20:42:30
Oh, it was really good! I know about the frustration, but so far it’s been more fun than frustrating. Good luck to you!
Apr 24, 2012 @ 12:27:11
Followed you over form Small Notebook.
I just made pineapple fried rice with pork chops from The Pioneer Woman blog and it was delicious. The best fried rice I’ve ever made and I learned how to make fried rice in Home Ec at the age of 12!
Apr 24, 2012 @ 20:44:13
I used a chicken soup recipe from Pioneer Woman this fall that everyone really liked. (Will have to modify it now because it had a flour-based roux.) I’m going to be sure to search for the fried rice and pork chops. Thanks for the tip! (And, I never took Home Ec. Explains a lot!)
Apr 25, 2012 @ 23:43:49
Well at least it still turned out great! My husband likes to cook by feeling. I’ve gotten better about it, but I usually start with a basic recipe and just make changes according to what I know would taste better (or according to what we have on hand). But I think one of the best ways to improve your cooking is just to keep at it and try new things. That’s how I’ve learned things these last few years. My mom has always cooked by feeling — but when I was a kid it was difficult for me to actually learn how to cook that way (plus I was more interested in other stuff! lol)
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Apr 26, 2012 @ 17:14:10
Well, I think cooking by feeling is what I aspire to, but I don’t know enough about the fundamentals to do it well at all. I want to get to that place where I can make substitutions or create something all new and have it taste good. So far, I’m not there yet!
May 06, 2012 @ 08:15:38
this dish looks awesome. i cook like Cane, and it sometimes annoys me! because i always cook “on the fly,” I am rarely able to completely duplicate a dish. or if I try, i’ve forgotten how i did it. i need a blend of you and Cane. After I cook something i really like, i need to *write it down in recipe form* so I can later recreate it! You all are the perfect couple, because that’s exactly what the two of you are now doing. (Let’s face it, without Rita, would this recipe ever have been memorialized in recipe form? Maybe not! It would have faded into the past as “Remember that time when we accidentally made that good risotto?” That would be me all the way!) You guys make a great team.
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May 06, 2012 @ 09:18:42
This comment made me laugh–no, without Cane the great dish would never have happened, and without me it would never have been written down. How can you know us so well from a few blog posts? Thanks for helping me see us in a new light.